There are things that must be said loud and clear to everyone: children have the right to be heard. As we refine our communication with our children, we realize that listening is not the same as hearing.
When we hear them we are making only a physical effort to find out what they are telling us, while when we listen to them we are not only catching up on the subject but also we involve On it.
Hearing is more than hearing, is to establish a deeper and lasting communication, it is to nurture trust between parents and children. Children have the right to be heard. Communication between parents and children encourages the closeness and unity of a family. I am not referring to the everyday talks, about what children should do, and yes to knowing how to listen to them with interest and attention.
Children are not stupid, they know it. Also, it would be nice if you knew that children who are not listened to can have self-esteem problems. Therefore, it is important to know that all children have the right to be heard.
We leave you some tips to listen to your son, following some important guidelines:
1- Get closer to your son. Get on the same physical level as him. It is not advisable that you be neither higher nor lower than him.
2- Forget what you have to do for a moment and spend a few minutes a day being totally available to your child. Pay full attention to what your child tells you.
3- Try to put yourself in your child's shoes and ask yourself if you pay attention to him. If you listen to him, you are educating him to also listen to you and others.
4- Make an effort to get more involved in what your son says than in the way he tells you or talks to you.
5- Learn to listen not only to your child's words, but especially to their gestures, silences, expressions, etc.
6- Find a quiet place to listen to your child. Avoid places with a lot of noise or with many distractions.
7- The most important thing in a conversation with your children is to listen to them and not be absorbed in reflection what you want to say in response.
8- As long as your child is talking, do not interrupt. Let him conclude his point of view and don't be too quick to make conclusions or assumptions.
9- From time to time, smile and nod that you understand what your child is saying. If you see that it is necessary, ask your child questions about what he is telling you.
10- It is important that keep an eye contact during the conversation.
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